A Christmas Break

Can you guys believe it's almost Christmas?

I sure can't.

Truthfully, it just doesn't feel like it's nearly Christmas to me right now, and I know there are many reasons for that.

What are my reasons for not feeling the 'Christmas spirit', you ask?

Well most of it, I believe, is stress. Like, seriously, I can't even enjoy my favorite time of the year because I've been so nervous and panicky and UGH.

I'm feeling this way because of many reasons, the biggest one being the deadline to have my messy book clean and edited in fifteen days for a full review of it. Now, this is a really big thing, and it wouldn't be so hard if it wasn't the first in a three book series, so there's all of these things I need to add/take away/rethink because they just didn't end up fitting the rest of the plot that I created months later.

Other reasons I'm stressed out is because I haven't been keeping up with my posts on here, and the same with my own personal Journals that have been sadly abandoned for much to long.

So--after much consideration and many whale-like-moans, I have decided to not finish the edits for my book before the deadline. I REALLY want that review, but if it's causing me to not enjoy my Winter, and stress me out like it is and fry my brain and make me this aggravated with everything in my life, the best choice is to take it away. I will always have next year, so I've finally given myself permission to not let it hold that kind of power over me, and just have a while off, for once.

Also--I've decided to not pressure myself so much with this Blog and my Journals--just until after Christmas, I promise!

I don't think you know how much I love Winter--I spend all year waiting for this one time, and I feel like I'm missing all of it because I've taken on too much and chose to have all of this stress in my life, so I'm doing something I don't normally do, and I'm saying no. I'm getting rid of things that are stressing me out so that I can enjoy my life to the fullest.

I'll post when I can and when I WANT to, and I'll be back on track in January with new and exciting things!

Now, I am finally allowed to do the things I enjoy, instead of telling myself no because I reserved all of my time for editing!

I'm going to finally finish the final book in the Dragon Master Trilogy (and complete the second Kingdom Hearts game on the PS2 because, seriously, why not?)!

I hope you all are having a wonderful Winter full of peace and Christmas spirit, doing things you enjoy and surrounded by people who only make you happy!

The Dreaded Love-Triangles

Today I want to talk about, you guessed it:

The dreaded Love-Triangles!


But wait, because what I'm going to talk about is really incredibly interesting.

Okay--so we've all been taught to hate Love-Triangles, right?

Taught by who, you ask?

By Authors who, most of the time, screw them up and make us all growl and want to rip out the pages of the book.

In your mind, what does a Love-Triangle mean to you?

It means where a character (Usually female because reasons), has the same feelings of love for two separate people., right?

But not all of them have to be that dramatic "Oh but I love him but OH I love him more and". No. Get that out of your head. 'Love-Triangles' are just like your characters or your setting or your plot--it is a part of the story that, if not done properly, will surely make you want to destroy everyone in your book.

Now, like it or not, over half of the things you watch and read today have at least ONE Love-Triangle involved.

Sorry to say, but it's the truth.

Of course there's Twilight (This is my least favorite Love-Triangle in anything. Ever.), but there are many more in places you wouldn't necessarily think to look. I'm going to list a few of the ones right off the top of my head, and if recognize any of them, feel free to ponder on it:

  • Clary, Jace and Simon from City of Bones. This one was brief, and I thought it was incredibly crappy, but it's still there, none the less.

  • Katniss, Peeta and Gale from the Hunger Games. Yes, as annoying as it is, there's a competition here.

  • Una, Peter and Indy from StoryBound. This one was not exactly able to develop as other one's might, considering it was a MG book, but there were still technically two love interests involved. 

  • Alina, Mal and the Darkling from the Grisha Trilogy. This one was very unique, and I think it was well done.
I know there are many, many more out there, but this is all I can list right now. Can you think of anymore?

Now--while all of these have the same idea of the Love-Triangle, each one is completely different from the last. I told you before--Love-Triangles is part of the story, too.

Though Love-Triangles involve three people (Obviously), that doesn't necessarily mean that both options, if you will, have to be equal in the competition for the girls love. From a person's point of view with no opinion on either competitor, sure, they both have a fair shot. But if you actually read the book, then like it or not you will root for one other the other. It's just the way it goes, and is why we choose "teams".

A lot of Love-Triangles have reasons and motive and, no, the book couldn't be what it is without it.

One of the references for this is the Infernal Devices by Cassandra Clare.

Sure, there's a bit of uncertainty with Tessa between Will and Jem, but I believe the Love-Triangle in this book was done beautifully, and it is actually what changed my view on hating Love-Triangles as a whole. I learned that they are more than just a random part of the story to get average teenage girls interested.

While most YA Love-Triangles are  petty and annoying, what with the one 'kind-hearted blonde guy' and the 'dark haired rogue', and ultimately I just what to stab my eyes with a fork, but some Authors have the ability to do them properly.

Love-Triangles are not for everyone to write, I'll tell you that. They're very easy to make too dramatic, or go overboard, or screw up, or. You get the point. But if you feel that you can serve it justice and balance the emotions? Go ahead and try it. You might like it!

In my opinion--if the Love-Triangle doesn't make the book better, and bring something that will lift, not tear down, the novel, it is unnecessary and should not even be there.

So--while Love-Triangles are complicated and risky, they're very realistic because, in real life, we don't meet one guy and think 'he's the one'. At first you're not sure about anything. It takes time to understand what love feels like, so I think, if you're going to have a Love-Triangle, don't drag it out through the entire book--or worse, the entire series. Oh gods, PLEASE don't do that.

If you spend that much time going back and forwards between two guys, you would figure out that you enjoy spending time with one over the other, thus letting you understand you actually love one more than the other. It's unrealistic and impossible to be THAT torn to carry on through an entire series--there comes a time to just say enough, alright?

I have a love/hate relationship with Love-Triangles, truthfully.

What about you? Have you ever written a Love-Triangle? Have you ever read about one?

Thanks for reading!

(And thanks, my sister, for pondering and studying Love-Triangles with me last night. Biscuit!)

Thank you, Viewers!

So--I'm aware I've been completely absent lately, as if I've been wiped off the face of the planet, but I am here to assure you that hasn't happened...

Or has it...?

But, anyway, I've just been busy with about every other thing on my life, and, sadly, Blogging has naturally taken the backseat when it comes to my top priorities.

This is, indeed, a pretty terrible thing, because I really enjoy rambling on here and what-not, but, alas, some things are just more important.

But; I have good news!

I'm planning something really exciting coming up before Christmas, and I will let you know exactly what after details are sorted, but I am incredibly excited for it, so I hope you will be, too!

I also have something else running through my thought processing, but it will take a while for me to sort THAT secret out.

When it comes down to it--I have MANY things planned, so that means MANY things for you to be excited about!

Before I hide away to plot my short Christmas story, I want to talk about YOU for a minute

Yes, YOU!

My wonderful viewers.

Sometimes I wonder why someone would want to read anything I write on here.

I'm just a really strange person who talks way too much, thinks way too much, and writes way too much.

So, the real question here is--why should anyone follow this Blog?

Truth is--I have absolutely no idea.

I'm not able to answer that for you.

I simply consider myself a small person with big things to say, to sum it up.

Ultimately, what I'm trying to say is that I am extremely honored to have you here. Anytime one of you views my Blog, I get so excited, and I can't truly explain why.

Whether I know you in person, Viewer, or I've never met you a day in my life--welcome! And thank you tremendously for visiting!

I have been able to do great things through Defying Impossible, and I hope to continue to for years to come!

Thank you for following Defying Impossible.

*Big group hug*